Anonymous asked: “I fucking KNOW I have depression thanks very much. I cannot GET HEALTH INSURANCE. I'm sure it is nice living places where the state wouldn't rather you die to decrease the surplus population but some have to jump hoops just for FOOD.”
Again, I’m aware that there are many places where it’s hard, but in a whole lot of the US, there are many people who are absolutely convinced that they can’t get health insurance, but who haven’t actually tried, and some of them have reported that, when they actually tried, it turned out they could.
submitting anecdata: I’m one of them
i had no health coverage at all for about 5 years before a massive asthma attack where i thought i was gonna die
wound up going to the hospital feeling guilty the whole time
turns out the hospital itself had programs in place to reduce the cost of treatment for those with low/no income
they also set me up with info on who to contact to get more reliable health care coverage
within a few months i had almost entirely free doc visits, medications, and lab tests
even if you don’t live in the USA there may be similar programs in place where you live
the point is you don’t know what’s available until you try
also: funerals are pretty damn expensive too. yes even the most basic ones.
the same EXACT thing happened to me. i was without care for years because of it!
Also worth pointing out for followers all over the world dealing with all sorts of issues: being in a bad situation can make you blind about the options available to you.
Last year, a friend of mine had reached the end of her rope with her abusive family. One night she failed to do her half of a college assignment we were doing together because she’d locked herself in the bathroom all night while her father threatened to break down the door and kill her. She said she wanted to get the help of a therapist to get her out of the situation, but couldn’t afford one. I casually suggested she look up support groups for women in abusive households.
She was shocked. The idea that there might be some group in our city offering some degree of support for women whose dad is threatening to kill them never even occurred to her.
Sometimes, the tougher things get, the harder it is to realize that there might be ways out. But there are.
I think one of the reasons the Harry Potter Epilogue was so poorly received was because the audience was primarily made up of the Millennial generation.
We’ve walked with Harry, Ron and Hermione, through a world that we thought was great but slowly revealed itself to be the opposite. We unpeeled the layers of corruption within the government, we saw cruelty against minorities grow in the past decades, and had media attack us and had teachers tell us that we ‘must not tell lies’. We got angry and frustrated and, like Harry, Ron and Hermione, had to think of a way to fight back. And them winning? That would have been enough to give us hope and leave us satisfied.
But instead. There was skip scene. And suddenly they were all over 30 and happy with their 2.5 children.
And the Millennials were left flailing in the dust.
Because while we recognised and empathised with everything up to that point. But seeing the Golden Trio financially stable and content and married? That was not something our generation could recognise. Because we have no idea if we’re ever going to be able to reach that stage. Not with the world we’re living in right now.
Having Harry, Ron and Hermione stare off into the distance after the battle and wonder about what the future might be would have stuck with us. Hell, have them move into a shitty flat together and try and sort out their lives would have. Have them with screaming nightmares and failed relationships and trying to get jobs in a society that’s falling apart would have. Have them still trying to fix things in that society would have. Because we known Voldemort was just a symptom of the disease of prejudice the Wizarding World.
But don’t push us off with an ‘all was well’. In a world about magic, JK Rowling finally broke our suspension of disbelief by having them all hit middle-class and middle-age contentment and expecting a fanbase of teenagers to accept it.
Also. Since when was ‘don’t worry kids, you’re going to turn out just like your parents’ ever a happy ending? Does our generation even recognise marriage and money and jobs as the fulfillment of life anymore? Does our generation even recognise the Epilogue’s Golden Trio anymore?
I'm anti sex industry because I just want to help women! Sex work is sex trafficking!
Except it's not, they're two different things and the key difference between them is consent and autonomy. It's like comparing farming with agricultural slavery. Also equating sex work with sex trafficking actually harms BOTH sex workers and sex trafficking victims. There are hundreds, if not thousands of sex worker activists and academic sex workers who are working hard to improve working conditions and destigmatize sex work while creating a world in which sex trafficking doesn't exist and sex trafficking victims can seek support and help. Also by attempting to define and disempower two groups of people when you belong to neither, you are speaking over people who are perfectly capable of speaking for themselves.
Sex worker activists:
Stop talking, I can't refute all these points but I just know you're wrong.
I know better than you because I am completely uninvolved in and ignorant about this industry. My ignorance makes me impartial.
Why are you telling me I'm talking over you, I just want to save you.
I'M HERE TO SAVE YOU STOP TALKING WHEN I AM SAVING YOU!
I’m gonna depress the hell out of all of you. ready? ok go
so, that “stop devaluing feminized work post”
nice idea and all
but the thing is, as soon as a decent number of women enter any field, it becomes “feminized,” and it becomes devalued.
as women enter a field in greater number, people become less willing to pay for it, the respect for it drops, and it’s seen as less of a big deal. it’s not about the job- it’s about the number of women in the job.
observe what happened with biology. it’s STEM, sure, but anyone in a male-dominated science will sneer at the idea of it being ‘for real,’ nevermind that everyone sure took it more seriously when it was a male dominated field. so has happened with scores of other areas; nursing comes to mind
so the thing is, it’s not the work or the job that has to be uplifted and seen as more respectable. it will never work out, until people start seeing women as respectable
but there’s a doozy and who the fuck knows if it’s ever happening in my life time
"observe what happened with biology. it’s STEM, sure, but anyone in a male-dominated science will sneer at the idea of it being ‘for real,’ nevermind that everyone sure took it more seriously when it was a male dominated field."
Personal anecdote time! I’m in a biology graduate program. An acquaintance wanted to introduce some guy to me because his son was thinking about becoming an undergrad science major. When he found out I was in the biology department, he grinned and said, “Well, I guess that’s kind of related to science.”
I gave him what I hope was an icy look and said, “Isn’t it strange how men outside the field started saying that right around the time biology majors shifted from mostly male to mostly female?”
The guy got this look on his face like he was about to play the “just a joke” card, and then an older woman who had been standing nearby, talking to someone else, turned to me and said, “The same thing happened with real estate.” She went on to explain that, over the course of the career, the male-to-female ratio among real estate agents had dropped, and the pay and “prestige factor” of that job dropped along with it.
This is also famous for happening to teaching. Keep an eye on medicine over the next fifteen years and watch as it becomes less prestigious and less well-paid.
It also happened to secretarial/administrative work - in the 19th century, clerical work was utterly respectable and seen as requiring quite a lot of talent and skill (which it still does!) but then along came the typewriter and women entering the field and HEY PRESTO “she’s just some secretary”
at my university, chemical engineering, or chem eng, was often referred to as “fem eng” why? because it’s an exact 50/50 ratio of women to men, which clearly makes it too feminine. in the 70s/80s chemical engineering was one of the most important and hardest engineering fields (plastics! pulp and paper! OIL) but now that there are more women in the field it’s considered an easier field, in comparison to other fields.
for example, i once heard a girl in mech eng list some of the engineering fields in the order she thought was hardest to easiest. you know what it was? electrical, mechanical, chemical. it’s absolutely no surprise that this list is also a handy ordering of fewest women in the field to most women in the field.
AND, another point! this happens the other way around too. computer science related fields used to be dominated by women, which made it not very important (switchboard operators? yup). once men started taking over the field, well that’s when the big money and prestige came in.
The field of anthropology, which is becoming female dominated from what I can see, has been determined to be useless by some. (I’ve even had girls in STEM fields tell me I don’t study a “real science” so how’s about that internalized misogyny for ya) When I was majoring in anthropology, Gov. Rick Scott determined that Florida didn’t need any more anthropologists and wanted to reduce funding to programs and increase funding to STEM programs. While not considered a STEM field, anthropologists have contributed to the research behind STEM programs and provide a wide variety of services to Florida alone. A team of anthropologists created a powerpoint “This is Anthropology" to talk about dozens of programs and services they contribute to in Florida which include healthcare programs, education programs, disaster relief, forensic investigation, environmental programs and conservation efforts, research for fortune 500 businesses, agricultural programs, immigration programs, programs and services for the elderly, etc. I’m also in the field of education, and we’re constantly made out to be overpaid (we’re not) and made out to be incapable of doing our jobs without very strict guidance.
It’s all very insulting, really. No matter what we study. No matter what we do to earn a living. It will never be good enough.